Death from all Dimensions

I can support you, dead or alive

The experience of death has many dimensions, beliefs, and definitions. I am one of those people that believe that death is but an instant in the experience of life. Is our life defined by our death or is our death defined by our life?

I am a deathworker, grief counselor, artist, and spirit medium. This has resulted in my experience of being able to hold death from multiple dimensions. The alive with grieving hearts. The alive and dying. The grieving dead. The eternally alive. My mother tells me stories from when I would talk to “imaginary friends” as a child. They summed it up to my childish imagination but when I first heard that story, I knew that wasn’t the case. I instantly felt a remembrance in my body.

I help people prepare for their death but death is not where my work and my support ends. My style of deathwork can be described by the phrase, “I got you either way and on either side.” I got you here, while you’re alive. I’ll help you tend to the fears, grief, and anxieties surrounding death. I’ll help you prepare your final arrangements so that everything is taken care of how you wish. I’ll help you write your obituary. I’ll hold you as you cry and say goodbye. I’ll support you and your family as you die. And when you die, I’ll pray for you and send you love. I’ll use my mediumship gifts to open up to see if you need any help crossing over. I’ll remind you of the light that you are and that you come from. I’ll pray that you make it back home. And whenever the necessary time passes, and whenever you’re ready, I’ll have a conversation with you. I’ll ask how it’s going on the other side. I’ll deliver your messages to your loved ones. I got you either way and on either side. Supported and loved by me, dead or alive.My care and service transcends time, money, space, and even death.

How did I get here? How is this even my life? Things have changed so much since death touched my heart. Walking me gently towards the hearth. How could I deny her when she’s the first one to truly see me and love me as I am? For her there is no time. No flaw. No difficulty. No hesitancy. No doubt. Nothing to hide. She is truth. Her presence grounds you into your inevitable reality of mortality. The possibility of her presence incites you to live your life. To never forget that you’re here for a blink. A blink when you’re born, then life, and a last blink when you die. Death isn’t the one that kills you but the one that helps liberate your soul from the physicality of your body. The one that guides you back home.

I once had a client that had a broken clock in her living room. We would laugh when we would catch ourselves trying to figure out the time, forgetting that the clock didn’t work. I wasn’t present for the moment that she died but something interesting happened in my home that let me know she had just transitioned. My own living room wall clock stopped working and just like hers, it started giving the wrong time. It was more of a feeling than a knowing. She had visited me as she made her way out. What an honor, one last little laugh.

I had another client show up in a vision while I was in a mediumship circle practice. I was shocked by his presence since he was still alive. It took me a while to realize that it was him, since he was showing himself at a younger age than I knew him. This client had dementia and wouldn’t remember me when I would visit him, or so I thought. During the mediumship practice, he thanked me for combing his hair earlier that week. He said that he really enjoyed it and asked me to tell his family to support him with more touch. This interaction really warmed my heart and brought me to tears. I relayed this message to his family and they were very grateful. My sweet client died the week after and his daughter in law sent me an invitation to the funeral. They used a picture of him from his wedding day for the invitations. In that picture, he was about the same age that I saw him as in my vision. I feel forever changed by this experience. My perception of what is possible has been transformed. The thin line between life and death has shifted for me. I am reminded that we are not just bodies, but also spirits, even when we are alive, and even more so after we die.

There was another time where I was meditating and a familiar man appeared in my vision. He was our neighbor when my family and I lived in Mexico.This man wasn’t family but he saw me grow up. My immediate family and I moved to the US years later so I didn’t see him as much. A couple years ago I found out that he had cancer and that he died soon after. When he visited me as I was in my home in San Diego, I found it very interesting. How can someone that I’ve only seen by my grandma’s house in Mexico, be in my living room right now. He said he visited me because he knew I could help him. He said that he remembered the stories of me as a child talking to “imaginary friends.” He told me that he had a lot of regrets and sorrows and felt very lost. I prayed for him, did energy work, and directed him towards whatever was next for him. I consoled him and reminded him that his time on earth was over, that it was time to go back to source. I asked for Creator to open up a path for him. I saw a bright and warm light and guided him to go through it. He thanked me and moved on.

I know I am not the first to hold this medicine in my lineage but I am the latest one to remember it and practice it. My practice is an intersection between curiosity, destiny, and ancestry. I feel so grateful to be honoring my life’s purpose of supporting people through life and death. What an honor to be chosen by death herself. I look forward to exploring other ways in which my deathcare practice continues to evolve.

It would be an honor to support you or your family members with end of life supportive services. Below is a sample list and description of the support I offer. Please know that it is my intention to support you based on what YOU need. We can go over that in more detail during our consultation call.

End of Life Support

End of Life Planning- I support people through exploring end of life options, connect you with resources based on your needs, and provide assistance with advanced care directive paperwork, and final arrangements. I can also help you figure out who you want to be supported by and create care plans to share with your loved ones. It is important to me that your wishes and agency are honored and respected.

Legacy Projects- If we think of life as a great show, what do you want as your final act? I can support you in finishing or starting projects that can share about your life and that others can remember you by. These projects can be anything you desire. For example, making a video, creating an art project, writing letters to loved ones, leaving advice and guidance for the future generations, or writing your own obituary.

Vigil Support- I will help you and your family members create a plan for when you are actively dying. What music do you want to listen to? What scents do you want in the room? Who would you like there with you? I want to make sure that you and your caretakers feel supported through it all. I can be there with you if you need that support or guide your loved ones through it from afar.

Ritual and Ceremony Guidance- Through this offering, I would help you plan and create rituals to honor and tend to death, and all the emotions and changes that come along with it. I can be part of the ceremonies and rituals if needed and/ or guide your loved ones through it. I can also help you plan for memorial services or celebration of life ceremonies.

Prayer for your transition- I pray for an easy and loving transition to the after life for all my clients. I light a candle on my own and I am also open to praying together with your family and loved ones.

I can provide these services virtually and in person in San Diego County.

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